nice nite in june

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I can't seem to find the original source for this poem titled Nice Nite in June, but it was an amusing and sad-but-true snapshot of modern relationships.


Nice nite in June,
Stars shine, big moon.
In park, on bench,
With gal, in clinch.
Me say me love,
She coo like dove.
Me smart, me fast,
Never let chance pass.
"Get hitched," me say.
She say, "Okay."
Wedding bells, ring, ring,
Honeymoon, everything.
Happy man, happy wife,
Best time in life!
'Nother nite in June,
Stars shine, big moon.
Ain't happy no more,
Carry baby, walk floor.
Wife fuss and scream,
Me yell, get mean.
Wife sad, me mad,
Everything go bad.
Nagging wife, bawling brat,
Life one big spat.
Me realize at last,
Me just too fast!


Dr. John Van Epp read the poem in a video I saw of one of his seminars on How to Avoid Marrying a Jerk (or Jerkette) - check out excerpts from his book at http://nojerks.com/index.php?page=Excerpts.

"Don't spend months preparing for a wedding that will last an hour, and neglect to prepare for a marriage that is to last a lifetime."

the one

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from Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage: Unlocking the Secrets to Life, Love, and Marriage by Mark Gungor:

The idea that there is just one special person for me - my soul mate - comes from an alleged altercation between the human race and the Greek god Zeus. It was thought that our undying pursuit of perfect love is the result of Zeus's scheme to keep us busy - far away from meddling in the domain of the gods. Those of us in Evangelical circles have even taken this to a whole new level by encouraging parents to start praying for that "one special person" that God has chosen for our child while he or she is still young. Rather than praying that our children embrace righteousness, justice, wisdom, sacrifice, goodness, et cetera - all things that would make them wonderful mates to whomever they chose to commit their lives to - we are praying for that "special one" that God has already chosen for our child. Zeus be praised, I guess.

The Bible never tells us to find the one God has chosen. It teaches us how to live well with the person we have chosen. And there is a distance of infinitude between those two thoughts. The first assumes that life, love, romance, and marriage are part of God's divine plan and, therefore, depend more on God than on us. The second, and more biblical, line of thought tells us that successful life, love, romance, and marriage are the result of a couple living by God's principles - principles that never fail. But this version, which places true love and marriage on the footing of human choice and responsibility, just isn't nearly as romantic or seductive. The truth is, a successful marriage is not the result of marrying the "right" person, feeling the "right" emotions, thinking the "right" thoughts, or even praying the "right" prayers. It's about doing the "right" things - period.

I generally agreed with Grugor, although there's a verse in Proverbs that might make one question the extremity of his opinion -

House and wealth are an inheritance from fathers, But a prudent wife is from the Lord. Prov 19:14

While I don't think it proves that God of the Bible intends one special woman for one certain man, it does indicate that a prudent wife is a gift that He purposefully blesses a man with. Is the verse saying a prudent wife is an inheritance from the Lord? Or does the "but" indicate a completely opposite idea of inheritance? How exactly God or fate or the universe orchestrates the giving of that gift is beyond me, and I whole-heartedly support that it's focusing on building one's own character that will most likely attract the amazing person we hope to be gifted with.