for the venusians

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more from men are from mars women are from venus =) this one's for the ladies...

Primary Love Needs for Men
Trust
Acceptance
Appreciation
Admiration
Approval
Encouragement

How to Score Points with the Fellas

• He makes a mistake and she doesn't say "I told you so" or offer advice. – 10 to 20 pts
  


• He disappoints her and she doesn't punish him. – 10 to 20 pts
  


• He gets lost while driving and she doesn't make a big deal out of it – 10 to 20 pts
  


• He gets lost and she sees the good in the situation and says "We would never have seen this beautiful sunset if we had taken the most direct route" – 20 to 30 pts
  


• He forgets to pick up something and she says "It's ok. Would you do it next time you are out?" – 10 to 20 pts
  


• He forgets it again and she says with trusting and patience "It's OK. Would you still get it?" 20 to 30 pts
  


• When she has hurt him and she understands his hurt, she apologises and gives him the love he needs – 10 to 40 pts
  


• She asks for his support and he says no and she is not hurt by his rejection but trusts that he would if he could. She does not reject him or disapprove of him. – 10 to 20 pts
  


• When he apologises for a mistake and she receives it with loving acceptance and forgiveness. The bigger the mistake he makes, the more points he gives – 10 to 50 pts
  


• When he asks her to do something she says Yes or No without giving a list of reasons for either action. And she remains in a good mood. – 1 to 10 pts
  


• When he wants to make up after a fight and starts doing little things for her and she starts appreciating him again. – 10 to 30 pts
  


• She is happy to see him when he gets home. 10 to 20 pts
  


• She feels disapproving and instead of getting into an argument, she goes to another room and privately gets back to normal and then explains it to him in a loving manner – 10 to 20 pts
  


• She really enjoys having sex with him – 10 to 40 pts
  


• She is tactful, graceful and loving in expressing her dislike or disappointment – without blaming, rejecting or being disapproving of him – 10 to 40 pts
  


• She doesn't give advice when he is driving or parking the car and then appreciates him for getting them there. – 10 to 20 pts (DISCLAIMER: if your husband is about to back into a tree, a non-accusatory warning might be appreciated)
  


• She asks for his support rather than dwelling on things he has done wrong. – 10 to 20 pts
  

according to Dr. Gray, men do tend to give "penalty points" - if you do something unloving, you can lose all or most of your points immediately, but as soon as you do something sincerely loving again you're back to the top and probably with interest!

If you think this isn't fair, women tend to subtract the points their guys have racked up from their own, leaving themselves with all the leftover points and their fella with zero. this means means the ladies aren't appreciating the loving things their guy DID do and he has to start from scratch again. could be bunk, either way its intriguing stuff =)

Another Jewel of Wisdom

Use "would" instead of "could" when you want something done. you may think "could" is more polite, but "would" helps the guys feel like it is a choice, rather than a indirect demand or question of their ability to carry out the task (guys can take your "could" as literally as they want). try it out and see if you get good results =)